Rules and Moving Forward

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What rules do you have that no longer serve you and are getting in

the way of you moving forward in your life?

As I gazed into my Transpersonal coaching notebook, this powerful question popped out at me.

I let out an audible sigh as I sat amidst a pile of paperwork.  The process of bringing one’s vision to life can sometimes be chalk full of self-imposed rules—conscious and unconscious.  Beliefs that are running in the background.  Biases that limit.  Old conclusions that are outdated.  Perfectionistic ideas that squander.  Behaviors that are no longer in alignment with the current versions of our lives.

Wowzers!  I felt like I hit the goldmine with this question.  I experienced this question becoming a springboard of opportunity.

I’m in the midst of creating a community at Cool Creative Press.  My vision stems from desiring to work in a collaborative way with writers in the new millennia of hybrid publishing.  Not only do we want to publish, we want to create a community where authors and storytellers can connect and share a cohesive platform of inspiration.

Let’s suppose you’re not a storyteller or writer in the traditional sense of the word; how is this question relevant to you?  At CCP we want to create relevance in the lives of everyone who are living their fiercest life.  Let’s dive a little deeper and explore.  We hit roadblocks in our lives, and it can be helpful to know that we all experience a moment of hesitation as we refine our visions.  Bringing our dreams to life takes tenacity, persistence, and a whole lotta heart.  In my Yoga teaching I often share this quote with my students, “It’s not a perfect, it’s a practice.

“What rules do you have that no longer serve you and are getting in the way of you moving forward in your life?

One of the rules I have been working with is that this process has to be perfectly laid out.  It doesn’t.  It isn’t.  It’s curious to wonder when I took on this belief.  If you also identify with this part of yourself, can you get in touch with how old this part of you feels?  Even as I type this I chuckle to myself.  Drafting one’s dream into a tangible reality is about coloring outside of the lines.  Having a bigger vision than what you currently know.  Traveling down roads that you didn’t even envision intersecting.  Showing up for the amazement of the process.

Whether you are a parent, an artist, a student, a doctor, a lover of your life, etc. perfection is not attainable.  Its mere definition eludes to that, “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.”  Some of my so-called flaws have been my greatest teachings and experiences in life. I’m not candy coating this to say they felt good at the time, but they nonetheless led me through the transformational fires of life.

Experiences are there to offer insight and wisdom.  They become the wise teacher, beckoning us to take the plunge and wholeheartedly jump into our lives.  Not when it’s convenient, or when you feel ready, but NOW.

I’m aware that when I put on the glasses of perfectionism, I suffer and so does the quality of my life and the vastness of my dreams.

Here are CCP we are interested in your stories. What rules do you have that are getting in the way?  At one point in my life I felt so ill-equipped to step out into the world, I kept thinking that I needed more degrees and certifications to become an expert.  Now I know that I have everything it takes to be of service and successful in the world.  I just need to trust that I am more than enough, and so are you! We would love to hear from you.  Feel free to leave your stories in the comments section.

Live a fierce life my friends!


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